Excessive Control: Dominating Another Person's Actions and Thoughts

Excessive control is a form of domination in which one individual or entity seeks to regulate another’s thoughts, actions, and decisions to an unhealthy degree. While some level of structure and guidance is necessary in various aspects of life, such as in parenting, leadership, and governance, excessive control crosses the line into coercion, manipulation, and restriction of personal freedom. This type of control can occur in different settings, including personal relationships, workplaces, political systems, and even media influence.

At its core, excessive control is often driven by fear, insecurity, or the desire for power. Those who exert extreme control may believe that they are acting in the best interest of others, while in reality, they strip individuals of autonomy and self-determination. This behavior can manifest in different ways, such as micromanaging, imposing rigid rules, discouraging independent thinking, or using emotional, psychological, or even physical tactics to ensure compliance. Over time, the person being controlled may experience anxiety, self-doubt, and a loss of confidence in their ability to make choices.

In personal relationships, excessive control can take the form of possessiveness, constant monitoring, and manipulation. A controlling partner may demand to know every detail of the other person’s life, limit their interactions with others, or make decisions on their behalf. Similarly, in family settings, parents or guardians who exert too much control over their children may prevent them from developing independence, leading to long-term emotional and psychological struggles.

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Audiobook: 2 April 2025